Anne Glenn: “KonMari Your Soul”

Please enjoy this post from guest blogger Anne Glenn of Pollyannie.

(C) 2019, Anne Glenn. Used with permission.

Konmari Your Soul

I’m sure you have heard about Marie Kondo by now and her Konmari method. Well, I’m here to talk about applying her methods to tidying your soul. Chances are, if you think your soul is in a pristine state, you probably have just become used to all of the clutter.

Matthew Kelly talks about our souls being like a car that we need to clean out, as this post mentions:

“We lose our sensitivity to sin in exactly the same way because after a while, a big self-destructive behavior doesn’t look that bad amongst all those little ones, does it? That’s how it works. You go to Confession and when you come out you are sensitive about the things that have stopped you from becoming the best version of yourself, just like when you wash your car and you are sensitive about the things that make your car dirty. “

Matthew Kelly

So why should we Konmari our soul? Do we even need to? What would be the benefit of doing this? And how can we do it in an honest way?

Provide a Dwelling Place

We need to examine our souls the same way we would examine our belongings. We must ask ourselves, does this behavior spark joy in my life? If not, I need to let it go. As a Catholic, I have found there is power in going to a priest who is representing Christ and confessing your sins. When you discard all that doesn’t spark joy, you make room for the things that do like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, forgiveness, understanding, gentleness, and self-control – the fruits of the Holy Spirit. When we hold on to our junk, we grieve the Holy Spirit. We have to tidy things up on a regular basis to give the Holy Spirit a home that sparks joy.

A Long Way to Go

More and more I am realizing that the closer I get to God, the further I have to go in my spiritual life. I feel very good about myself when I am not examining my conscience. It’s very humbling when I take the time to reflect on where I have strayed. . I need God. I need His grace. One way I realize how much I need God’s grace and forgiveness is when I haven’t been to confession in a long time and the difference it makes afterward. All of the sudden my reserves of patience have been restored – whereas before I would be ready to snap with the next spill, or scream, or whatever accident life throws at me.

No Stone to Throw

We are all very good at recognizing the sins of others, amen? I think we would all benefit from examining our own shortcomings and making amends. I am reminded of these Bible verses and a quote from Leo Buscaglia:


“You hypocrite! First, remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of yourbrother’s eye. “

Matthew 7:5

“He who is without sin can cast the first stone.”

John 8:7

“Individuals are incensed when it is suggested that they could, under certain situations and circumstances, be a part of any behavior harmful toward their fellow human beings. Yet, innocently, they do so every day. They ignore antipollution laws, refuse to accept responsibility for inferior education, world hunger, the loneliness of their neighbors, the ill-treatment of children and the elderly. They are only too ready to condemn the politicians, the activists, the Communists, or anyone else rather than accept their own thoughtlessness. They are too caught up in the self to evaluate their own prejudicial, hurtful, negative attitudes. If we are perceptive we will find that either by choice or unconsciously each of us engage, almost daily, in some wrongdoing. But this does not mean that we are evil, that we lose our worth as loving human beings. One act is not sufficient reason to devalue a person.”

Leo Buscaglia

Powerful, right? Indeed we are all hypocrites because we are all human. None of us are in a position to cast any stones. This is why we need to continually tidy up our souls. Not to make us feel guilty and worthless, but for us to practice empathy and keep us humble.

Honest Konmari-ing

We can all agree how beautiful a tidy home looks…but what about a tidy soul? And how will you know if something is a sin or not? Does a specific behavior spark joy? Or does it bring about more anger, despair, grief, or destruction? It’s so easy to justify and rationalize our behavior in a way that suits us best. But how can we konmari our soul in an honest way? The good news is the Catholic Church has already done the work in regard to which behaviors do and do not spark joy and it’s called an examination of conscience, and it is not intended as a set of rules to control you, but to help you. The only way to test if abiding by these guidelines sparks joy is by trying to live them. Until you truly try, you cannot give a testimony one way or the other. That is the way spiritual truth is discovered. As G.K. Chesterton said,


“The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult; and left untried. “

G.K. Chesterton

Have you tried living a life of Christian virtue? I mean, really tried. Not just follow the morality that suits you, but tried living according to all of the moral teachings of the Church. Did you find that it brought more order, peace and joy in your life?

One of my favorite bloggers/authors/radio hosts said in regard to her conversion from atheism:

“When I started living my life according to Catholic teaching the proof was, as they say, in the pudding. It worked. It worked better than I could have ever guessed it would. And since I’ve been able to receive what they say is really the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ, my soul, my entire life, has changed profoundly. “

Jennifer Fulwiler
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My Missions

I am friends with some really smart women.

We recently got together over a coffee and the poor baristas probably thought they had somehow been trapped in an hours-long blogging/philosophy/therapy conference.

Was it worth it? YES.

I am lucky enough to call these women my friends, and if you want to check out what they have to say about things:

PollyAnnie
Annie Glenn shares the ins and outs of her daily adventures as a mom, a Catholic woman, and a professional organizer/makeup artist/actual artist-artist. Basically, she can take anything and show you where there’s beauty in it. Plus, she reads some truly interesting books!

No Body But Yours
Deanna Barnes is a novelist and Catholic convert who explores themes of physical spiritual health and holiness. A professional Caretaker, Deanna knows exactly how it feels to keep compassion, hope, faith, and goodness alive for the sake of our bodies and souls–especially when the going gets tough.

And then there’s me.

That’s one big niche, you got there…

My friends asked me recently what my mission was for this blog, and I had no answer. It wasn’t because I didn’t have anything to say; rather, I had about 20 different possible missions I could give them!

There are so many things I’m passionate about sharing with you: Living well, my joy and dedication to my upcoming marriage and my family, feeling Catholic joy, being curious about books, going on adventures, developing a love of livelong learning, talking about my journey as an educator,…..oh, so many things. I couldn’t choose one. I was bummed.

And all the while, every single blogging advice forum/book/youtube video repeats: “Find your niche, find your niche…..”

What if life is my niche? That makes it kind of hard to narrow things down!! Unfortunately, it also means I can’t write posts because I wind up with several hundred ideas, all wanting to pour out at the same time.

I can’t tell you how much I have ruminated and puzzled ’till my puzzler was sore.

To be honest, I’m still not sure if I could tell you my “mission” per se, but I can tell you who I am and what I know for sure:

WE ARE EXPLORERS

I know contemporary culture depicts a violent, competitive, petty, corrupt, dysfunctional world.
But that’s not the world, friends; that’s just society.

The WORLD is big! And good! And fascinating! Seriously: I still marvel over the fact that some weird tree-lookin’ thing grows out of the ground, and it’s free and it’s perfectly made, and if I eat it, it literally keeps me alive! I’m talking about broccoli. Doesn’t that fascinate you? Doesn’t that excite you? It excites me! I geek out over vegetables and tons of other things too, because everywhere you look, there are just more interesting, beautiful things to see.

Let’s get curious!

There are tons more things to explore, so many stories to tell, so many things to share with each other, and it belongs to all of us. That’s why I stand so firmly on the fact that:

EDUCATION IS A LIFELINE

Can you believe we live in a country that has adults whom have never gotten to learn to read? Can you believe that?

Can you believe there are people in our country who have been so spurned by systems that they believe learning is only for one type of person, for only one gender, for only one race, for only one socioeconomic group?

I’m not talking about education in terms of a diploma from somewhere–we already know that those things don’t necessarily mean an education as much as they mean an exchange of a lot of money. Plus, I believe that some people have a talent for trades. We need people doing things, learning things. I don’t care where you get an education from, be it university or trade school or seminary or working in a business from entry-level on up to management, starting a business yourself, or just spending your days in the library. Wherever you get your education from, I want you to get it. And I’m going to help you get it, if I can.

WE ARE A FAMILY

We are a family of humanity, with stories to tell. We are individuals who are all learning, and who all have to come to terms with our relationships with God. We are curiously and wonderfully made. We are not meant to be superheroes, and we are not garbage. We are human. And we are together. So let’s be together, let’s spend some time together, and tell each other what we know.

WRAPPING THINGS UP…

I guess my mission is to show you that life is worth living, and also to invite you to come and get curious about this amazing world with me!

Will you join me?

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